i had a talk with a friend of mine today...and we got to
talking about babygirls versus little girls and what and if there is a
difference. i think it is all a matter of opinion. i consider myself a
babygirl, babydoll, little girl...whatever fits the dynamic between me
and my Daddy. i know that when some hear the name "babygirl" the thought
of a little girl wearing diapers and sucking on her binky runs through
their head...which can be correct. But...a babygirl is also the girl who
just wants to be cherished and adored for who she is, no matter what
age she is. Big, little, middle or otherwise.
As a babygirl, there are a few things i need...
~knowing that Daddy is there for me no matter what. That He can be in control and know what i need... even if i don't.
~being able to have boundaries and expectations and set consequences for not adhering to those boundaries and expectations.
~knowing that i have the opportunity to embrace all the things that make me smile and giggle...whether that is being pushed on a swing, blowing bubbles, or screaming "fuck me harder, Daddy" as He just takes what is His.
~knowing that when i need to be little or just "be"...that Daddy can take care of everything and not everything is put on my shoulders.
~being allowed the freedom to explore all those dark deep mysteries within...the ones that i find taboo yet, just the thought turns me on...
~knowing that i am His only one. i know that for some, sharing their Daddy with sisters (or brothers) is a natural part of the dynamic...but not for me. Sharing is not something i do well, and so i just won't. i need to be at the center of His world, and i will do whatever He wants or needs, for me to continue to be that one that is there.
~i need to know that Daddy is capable of making sure that we get quality time together to nurture our dynamic...like dates and treats...even if this is just an unplanned ride in the car, or a picnic in the park...or something more spectacular like a concert or movie date...i need to not always be the one who plans everything down to the last detail...it is exhausting for those of us who are babygirls/littles.
~i need to know that you love me and cherish me, and that you need me as much as i need you.
~i need for you to make time for me. Brush my hair, tell or read me stories, give me baths, choose my clothing (if this is something you wish...i won't mind), let me know what you expect of me that day...or any day...set a whole schedule if that is what you desire. The fact that you took the time to think about it, shows me that i was on your mind and that you were thinking of me...and that alone will make me a very happy girl.
~make a big deal out of things. Make my birthday special. Don't forget holidays like Valentines, the Spring Equinox and Winter Solstice. Don't be ashamed if i want to dress up for Halloween. Allow me to be little if and when needed. (and mind you...even though i may love the fact of a stocking for Solstice...filling it with "big girl" and "little girl"stuff is way awesome...as even though i don't play with toys, there are still some that i collect.) i never had holiday's be special when i was a kid, so i don't know what it is like to have a wonderful birthday party that i didn't plan myself, or presents under the tree, that i didn't pick out myself etc...feeling like i am special enough that someone thinks i deserve that, would be wonderful.
~don't tell me i am perfect. This makes me feel like i have no further purpose and don't need to try anymore. i think this is a chicken way of you telling me that you don't want to try to do what i need from you.
~Don't make me sleep alone every night. and if i do need to go to bed without you, take the time to tuck me in and kiss me goodnight...maybe even snuggle me for a few minutes.
~Don't laugh if i sleep with a stuffed bunny, (or teddy or anything for that matter)...i need the comfort of knowing that something is there watching over me and protecting me.
~stand up for me. show me that you care and that i am important to you.
~don't hide your jealousy or possessiveness. i WANT to know that you care enough to want to keep me to yourself.
~make the effort to do the things you know i need, even if it isn't your thing...sometimes i just need to be flogged or spanked. The pain is a release for me. Makes me feel alive and helps my body let go of all the toxins and crap that builds up causing me anxiety and stress. For me, that is a need. and i always feel a whole lot better after it is over. :)
~don't be afraid to push my limits. yes i am a girl, but i am strong and not easy to break. i love your hand around my neck, choking me. i love you pulling my hair as you whisper threats into my ear. i love it when you just take me, when and how you want it. When you are indecisive, i don't respect you. When you are immature, i don't respect you. When you don't follow through, i don't respect you. and above all, i need to respect you. Without that, we have nothing.
~and lastly, communicate with me. Tell me what you need. Tell me what you want. Tell me when i have done something you aren't happy with, or when i have done something you are! i need to know, i want to know. Be willing to compromise or at least hear what i have to say. Because just like with respect...without communication, we have nothing. and as your babygirl, i want everything with you.
For babygirls, Daddies are our world. We look to them for guidance and love. For opening us up and pushing our limits...molding us into the girls we all have the potential to be...we just sometimes get lost. We need to please you. Nothing makes us happier than to hear you tell us "good girl" or "i am so proud of you". We will give you anything. and usually we only have a few "limits"...but again, with communication, those things would be known and discussed how to be handled.
A last thought on this. As a Daddy, take pride in yourself. Use manners and proper etiquette. Dress well, and keep yourself well groomed. Smell delicious and be clean. Get tested and take care of your health. Not doing these things sends the message that you don't care about yourself, which tells me that you are probably incapable of caring about me, as well. and if you make the effort for me...i will most certainly and happily make the effort for you.
As a babygirl, there are a few things i need...
~knowing that Daddy is there for me no matter what. That He can be in control and know what i need... even if i don't.
~being able to have boundaries and expectations and set consequences for not adhering to those boundaries and expectations.
~knowing that i have the opportunity to embrace all the things that make me smile and giggle...whether that is being pushed on a swing, blowing bubbles, or screaming "fuck me harder, Daddy" as He just takes what is His.
~knowing that when i need to be little or just "be"...that Daddy can take care of everything and not everything is put on my shoulders.
~being allowed the freedom to explore all those dark deep mysteries within...the ones that i find taboo yet, just the thought turns me on...
~knowing that i am His only one. i know that for some, sharing their Daddy with sisters (or brothers) is a natural part of the dynamic...but not for me. Sharing is not something i do well, and so i just won't. i need to be at the center of His world, and i will do whatever He wants or needs, for me to continue to be that one that is there.
~i need to know that Daddy is capable of making sure that we get quality time together to nurture our dynamic...like dates and treats...even if this is just an unplanned ride in the car, or a picnic in the park...or something more spectacular like a concert or movie date...i need to not always be the one who plans everything down to the last detail...it is exhausting for those of us who are babygirls/littles.
~i need to know that you love me and cherish me, and that you need me as much as i need you.
~i need for you to make time for me. Brush my hair, tell or read me stories, give me baths, choose my clothing (if this is something you wish...i won't mind), let me know what you expect of me that day...or any day...set a whole schedule if that is what you desire. The fact that you took the time to think about it, shows me that i was on your mind and that you were thinking of me...and that alone will make me a very happy girl.
~make a big deal out of things. Make my birthday special. Don't forget holidays like Valentines, the Spring Equinox and Winter Solstice. Don't be ashamed if i want to dress up for Halloween. Allow me to be little if and when needed. (and mind you...even though i may love the fact of a stocking for Solstice...filling it with "big girl" and "little girl"stuff is way awesome...as even though i don't play with toys, there are still some that i collect.) i never had holiday's be special when i was a kid, so i don't know what it is like to have a wonderful birthday party that i didn't plan myself, or presents under the tree, that i didn't pick out myself etc...feeling like i am special enough that someone thinks i deserve that, would be wonderful.
~don't tell me i am perfect. This makes me feel like i have no further purpose and don't need to try anymore. i think this is a chicken way of you telling me that you don't want to try to do what i need from you.
~Don't make me sleep alone every night. and if i do need to go to bed without you, take the time to tuck me in and kiss me goodnight...maybe even snuggle me for a few minutes.
~Don't laugh if i sleep with a stuffed bunny, (or teddy or anything for that matter)...i need the comfort of knowing that something is there watching over me and protecting me.
~stand up for me. show me that you care and that i am important to you.
~don't hide your jealousy or possessiveness. i WANT to know that you care enough to want to keep me to yourself.
~make the effort to do the things you know i need, even if it isn't your thing...sometimes i just need to be flogged or spanked. The pain is a release for me. Makes me feel alive and helps my body let go of all the toxins and crap that builds up causing me anxiety and stress. For me, that is a need. and i always feel a whole lot better after it is over. :)
~don't be afraid to push my limits. yes i am a girl, but i am strong and not easy to break. i love your hand around my neck, choking me. i love you pulling my hair as you whisper threats into my ear. i love it when you just take me, when and how you want it. When you are indecisive, i don't respect you. When you are immature, i don't respect you. When you don't follow through, i don't respect you. and above all, i need to respect you. Without that, we have nothing.
~and lastly, communicate with me. Tell me what you need. Tell me what you want. Tell me when i have done something you aren't happy with, or when i have done something you are! i need to know, i want to know. Be willing to compromise or at least hear what i have to say. Because just like with respect...without communication, we have nothing. and as your babygirl, i want everything with you.
For babygirls, Daddies are our world. We look to them for guidance and love. For opening us up and pushing our limits...molding us into the girls we all have the potential to be...we just sometimes get lost. We need to please you. Nothing makes us happier than to hear you tell us "good girl" or "i am so proud of you". We will give you anything. and usually we only have a few "limits"...but again, with communication, those things would be known and discussed how to be handled.
A last thought on this. As a Daddy, take pride in yourself. Use manners and proper etiquette. Dress well, and keep yourself well groomed. Smell delicious and be clean. Get tested and take care of your health. Not doing these things sends the message that you don't care about yourself, which tells me that you are probably incapable of caring about me, as well. and if you make the effort for me...i will most certainly and happily make the effort for you.
(i am lucky that i have a wonderful Daddy...but these are the things
that i knew i needed and wanted...and so i thought i would share)
